Não escondo que a Mindy Kaling – mais conhecida pelo seu trabalho nas séries The Office e, mais recentemente, The Mindy Project – é uma grande inspiração para mim como mulher trabalhadora, criativa e talentosa, que trabalhou no duro até conseguir concretizar o seu sonho de escrever comédia. Mais que isso, ela superou o seu sonho e não só escreve comédia, como se tornou actriz em séries de comédia e até produtora da sua própria série, Mindy Project.
Li ambos os livros da Mindy – “Is Everyone Hanging out Without Me?” e “Why Not Me?” – e a minha admiração pela Ms. Kaling cresceu ainda mais.
Neste post, listo as 11 lições que aprendi com a Mindy durante a leitura do livro Why Not Me?, o último dela que li e cuja review podem ler aqui.
Lição #1: Às vezes, precisas de ser um bocadinho corajosa
“People’s reaction to me is sometimes “Uch, I just don’t like her. I hate how she thinks she is so great.” But it’s not that I think I’m so great. I just don’t hate myself. I do idiotic things all the time and I say crazy stuff I regret, but I don’t let everything traumatize me. And the scary thing I have noticed is that some people really feel uncomfortable around women who don’t hate themselves. So that’s why you need to be a little bit brave.”
Lição #2: O poder das amizades femininas
“There are not many relationships more powerful than that of two women who fall fast and deep into a friendship.”
Lição #3: O melhor riso vem de memórias partilhadas
“The best kind of laughter is laughter born of a shared memory.”
Lição #4: De onde vem, afinal, a confiança
“Confidence is just entitlement. Entitlement has gotten a bad rap…but entitlement in and of itself isn’t so bad. Entitlement is simply the belief that you deserve something. Which is great. The hard part is, you’d better make sure you deserve it.”
Lição #5: A auto-confiança vem do trabalho “duro”
“People talk about confidence without ever bringing up hard work…but I don’t understand how you could have self-confidence if you don’t do the work. I have never, ever, ever, met a high confident person and successful person who is not what a movie would call a ‘workaholic.’ Because confidence is like respect; you have to earn it.”
Lição #6: Devemos escolher as nossas batalhas e saber estabelecer prioridades
“Though I am a generally happy person who feels comfortable in my skin, I do beat myself up because I am influenced by a societal pressure to be thin. All the time. I feel it when I wake up in the morning and try on every single pair of my jeans and everything looks bad and I just want to go back to sleep. But my secret is: even though I wish I could be thin, and that I could have the ease of lifestyle that I associate with being thin, I don’t wish for it with all of my heart. Because my heart is reserved for way more important things.”
Lição #7: As pessoas não receiam quem falha, mas podem tentar deitar-te abaixo quando estás numa fase boa da vida
“People get scared when you try to do something, especially when it looks like you’re succeeding. People do not get scared when you’re failing. It calms them. But when you’re winning, it makes them feel like they’re losing or, worse yet, that maybe they should’ve tried to do something too, but now it’s too late. And since they didn’t, they want to stop you. You can’t let them.”
Lição #8: Trabalhar e sente-te confiante
“Work hard, know your shit, show your shit, and then feel entitled. Listen to no one except the two smartest and kindest adults you know, and that doesn’t always mean your parents. If you do that, you will be fine.
Lição #9: Quem gosta de ti, arranja sempre tempo para ti. Caso contrário, não gosta assim tanto…
“If someone really wants to see you, they always find a way. Always.”
Lição #10: A auto confiança é como o respeito: há que ganhá-la
“[…] I don’t understand how you could have self-confidence if you don’t do the work… I have never, ever, ever, met a high confident person and successful person who is not what a movie would call a ‘workaholic.’ Because confidence is like respect; you have to earn it.”
Lição #11: No fundo, ninguém gosta de honestidade
“People don’t say “Give me your honest opinion” because they want an honest opinion. They say it because it’s rude to say “Please tell me I’m amazing.”